Invest In Yourself!
3 Reasons Why You Should Invest In a Life Coach
There are many reasons why I am happy that I invested in a life coach, business coach, and at times, a therapist. I had a lot of questions about life that I couldn't process with family or friends, nor did I want to "dump" on them every time we caught up like some kind of soap opera. I knew that I had blind spots just as everyone does. But the exciting part of seeking help was this: I was FINALLY unafraid of mine. I was unafraid to say I didn't understand something or that I couldn't quite process an idea or situation on my own. I was unafraid to admit that I lacked proper wisdom in any given area of my life.
In the past, I silently assumed therapy or life coaching meant that you were unhealthy or even downright crazy. Fill in the blank with any other stigma around mental health - you guys know all of those untrue and toxic labels we’ve seen society place on this kind of "self-care." Admittedly, I blindly believed some of them. Ooooh, was I wrong!!
If you are like me, many people lean on you for emotional support and wisdom, which feels extremely good at times to serve in a way that blesses others. However, it can also become draining if you yourself don't have somewhere to flush your own mess at the end of the week. It's the same reason we clean the toilets in our home often. No one person or bathroom can hold an impossible load of waste. After a while, a simple flush isn’t enough - some bleach, a deep clean, and maybe even a plumber become necessary.
Here are some of the reasons why you should consider a life coach or therapist:
A coach or therapist helps to make you more accountable.
Accountability is huge if you want to GROW. I have had a life coach for over two years now, and it has been the best investment I've ever made for my personal development. I even have a business coach who has been just as essential and transitional in my life, guiding the way I handle money and resources. (If you would like a post on that, please let me know.)
My life coach has helped me see my blind spots - those areas of our personality so ingrained in us that they’re beyond our ability to see. My life coach helps me process my emotions healthily, forgive others where needed, forgive myself if needed & move forward. I’m better equipped to choose overcoming rather than being a victim of life circumstances. We need to learn that we have the power to take responsibility for our life choices and goals. And my coach helps guide me into learning how.
A coach or therapist helps you gain peace of mind.
It's helpful to have someone who sees you for who you are at your core, someone who can see through your hang-ups and excuses. They also help you process out of those debilitating thoughts and emotions in a straightforward way, especially in those times when confusion is present. With a coach or therapist present, I have a safe place to let my dust settle and regain peace of mind without fear of being misunderstood or critiqued through my processing.
The partnership that comes from a life coach benefits you and those you love.
To have someone else to vent to other than your husband or your best friend - this is a beautiful thing. At times, those people are too close to your circumstances to give you the perspective you may need or see something from a healthy point of view.. Or hey, you may need to vent about the person you usually vent to! Most of the time, a coach or a therapist will be older, having had more life experience that you have, which makes them rightly qualified to speak into any situations you may be facing. Having a third party who is unbiased is only beneficial for the most precious connections you have in your life.
As an adult, I've learned to prioritize my mental health and personal development. I know that at the end of the day, investing in these areas is what will make me the best wife, the best mom, constituent, and friend I can be. I hope these thoughts help you make a decision toward investing in a life coach or therapist. Sis, there's no shame in it!
- Kennedy